Iâ€™m 49, divorced as well as in brand new relationship (8 months) Progressing nicely and heâ€™s lovely but We have problems with extreme relationship anxiety that will be really getting even even worse longer Iâ€™m seeing him. Terrified from it no longer working down, have problems with low self confidence and a part that is big of seems it could be easier simply to end things now to stop myself getting hurt. An element of the problem is we reside over one hour or more aside so weekends must be prepared and spontaneous social gatherings not possible. We have a great time but he finds it impossible to sleep in the same bed as me (he claims he gets restless legs) so we end up sleeping apart and I miss the closeness and canâ€™t sleep for worrying when we are together. By the time weâ€™ve invested two nights together Iâ€™m utterly exhausted and invested and feel really down between visits. We now have mentioned residing together however in a â€œcouple of yearsâ€ and we truthfully donâ€™t understand how Iâ€™ll cope with the period that is interim. We both have demanding jobs and older kids at home so lots to focus around. We canâ€™t help experiencing that i will be feeling less anxious right now nevertheless the stress is perhaps all consuming and Iâ€™m miserable for most of the right time Iâ€™m maybe not with him. I understand this really isnâ€™t a appealing quality but I canâ€™t appear to shake it well.
In the event that anxiety of stress is causing you to be exhausted after hanging out together, i am struggling to see any pleased future for you tbh.