Iâ€™m 49, divorced plus in new relationship (8 months) Progressing nicely and heâ€™s lovely but We suffer with extreme relationship anxiety that will be really getting even worse longer Iâ€™m seeing him. Terrified from it no longer working down, suffer with low self confidence and a part that is big of seems it might be easier merely to end things now to avoid myself getting hurt. The main problem is we reside over an hour or so or so aside so weekends must be prepared and spontaneous social gatherings maybe not feasible. We have a great time but he finds it impossible to sleep in the same bed as me (he claims he gets restless legs) so we end up sleeping apart and I miss the closeness and canâ€™t sleep for worrying when we are together. Because of the right time weâ€™ve invested two nights together Iâ€™m utterly exhausted and invested and feel really down between visits. We now have discussed residing together however in a â€œcouple of yearsâ€ and we genuinely donâ€™t discover how Iâ€™ll cope with the interim duration. We both have demanding jobs and older children at home so lots to the office around. We canâ€™t help feeling that i will be feeling less anxious right now however the stress is perhaps all consuming and Iâ€™m miserable for a lot of the time Iâ€™m maybe maybe maybe not with him. I am aware that isnâ€™t a appealing quality but We canâ€™t appear to shake it well.
In the event that anxiety of stress is causing you to be exhausted after spending some time together, i am struggling to see any pleased future for you tbh.